Know Your Man: His Children
By Maria Moratto “Children are priceless, but raising them is probably the most expensive thing you’ll ever do.” ~ MSN Money “I believe that we parents must encourage our children to become educated, so they can get into a good college that we cannot afford.” ~ Dave Barry “No fathers or mothers think their own children ugly.” ~ Miguel de Cervantes According to MSN Money (Sept. 2005), not counting Higher Education, which can mount to $150,000, and not counting private schools and hospital bills, a child costs $135K ($40K/year, income) ; $185K($40-70K/year income); and $270K (70K+/year, income). Children 15-17 years old are more expensive. Expensive? Mamma mia! If our men have children from a previous relationship, the above mentioned amounts must be taken into consideration when making our annual budget. It is imperative that we understand that a man has a moral and financial obligation towards his children and in no way, have we the right to deny or reduce help to these children. The Golden Rules is crucial in this case. As we wouldnt want this to happen to our own children, we cant let it happen to the ones that are somewhat related to us.The same thing applies when the children are visiting our home, which is also their home. There has to be no denying of privileges and no differential treatment between our children and his children. A lot of flexibility is required, but this is totally doable with a good dose of goodwill. Everyone deserves a supportive father, in any which way they need.Though you might think I am a fool, may I recommend that you maintain a friendly relationship with their mother as well? We must do all we can for the sake of every childs happiness. My friend Jaimen has 5 children from his first marriage and 2 from his second. The family live a comfortable life that is not luxurious, though he could afford it if he so wished. This is because he gives his first wife a great salary so she can stay home and take care of their children. He thinks that it is not fair that because he has left the house (for whatever reason) his children need to suffer or change their former lifestyle. He pretends he is still there and makes sure everyone is cared for. I once invited him to be my ex-husband! Ok, so we can say that he was able to be so generous because he had the means to; I will say that we can all do this proportionally to what we make.This is the way it should be. Our children are not to pay for their parents folly. A Word of AdviceLadies: Accept the fact that his children are important. Lets understand that we knew this before we got together with our men. Jealousy and differential treatment do not become us. Remember Cinderella? Lets be fair. Gents: Dont punish your children because you now hate their mother. Remember that we need to be responsible for our actions for life, especially when our actions resulted in the birth of other human beings. Give them love, support, and guidance, no matter where they live. Maria Moratto 2006 Want to have more abundance, health, time, love, fun, and blessings? Visit Prescription For Bliss at http://www.rx4bliss.com, sign up for the newsletter and receive a fr*ee ebook called “Happy People Are More Abundant!” Dr. Maria Moratto is the author of “The Inspired Healing For Your Body, Mind, and Soul,” “The Inspired Healing Journal: Mending Your Broken Heart,” and “Attract Money Journal.” Visit her site to get fr*ee affirmation cards. You may reprint this article in its entirety as long as you add this resource box. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Maria_Moratto http://EzineArticles.com/?Know-Your-Man:-His-Children&id=338298 ansiolaticos zolpidem ambien for suicide ambien toxicity in dogs buy ambien online without prescription
